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Do you want to get married? Do you want to have babies? What are you going to do with your degree? Why did you change your name? Why don’t you ever wear a dress/tie/hair up/hair down/grow it out/keep it short? Why won’t you be a version of yourself that is comfortable for us and something we understand?
They worry. They cross boundaries. They’re inappropriate. They ask questions that are none of their business. They love you. You love them. But love can sometimes have little to do with it. Loving our family doesn’t make it easy to be with them. Or to be without them. It can hurt no matter the situation. It’s work no matter the amount of work you have done. It’s tender terrain if you’ve had major issues with your family system. Especially if you still think that you can fix it, make it better, make it right or make it out of the holidays unscathed.
You can’t. Don’t try.
They love you. In their own way. Or they are too broken to love you in any way. You love them in your own way which might mean that you don’t see them now. Or ever. Or you do and you deal with the consequences. It’s OK whatever you decide because no one can know what you need but you.
We are in the deep waters of the holiday seasons right now. Thanksgiving, Chanukah, Winter/Summer Solstice, Christmas, Kwanzaa and New Year. Even if you don’t celebrate any of it, if you are in a country that does, you are in the soup of said festivities.
It’s easy to loose sight of the fact that this time of year can be difficult. Sadness can sideswipe us. Longing can linger. Grief can get the better of our best efforts. It can be difficult even if our lives are nearly perfect. It can be emotional even if everything is going really well. We can be connected with age-old hurts, yearnings and childhood fantasies for no good reason other than it’s the holiday season and we are human.
This is true every year but this year it’s all amplified by the fact that there is a full moon in the ultra emotional sign of Cancer on December 25th at 3:12 AM PST.
Cancer carries with it every hurt that ever happened and a salve for each one. While being sensitive to every new feeling that arises, Cancer is aware of everyone else’s feelings and every feeling that has ever been felt. This water sign works. Captain of All the Feels is a full time job.
The moon belongs in Cancer. It’s strong in Cancer.
Cancer needs love. Cancer needs family. Cancer needs you to know what it wants without expressing it outright. Crabs move sideways. But Cancer’s real work is identifying it’s own emo state and giving itself exactly what it needs instead of blaming everyone else for not doing so.
Cancer is the loving parent and the infant. To learn to nurture and nourish ourselves without expecting others to do so is Cancer’s greatest calling. There is no greater force of love in the universe than a contented, self-assured and centered Cancer.
It’s Big Momma Magic.
This full moon is sending a trine ray to Neptune. It’s sweet. It’s soft. It’s potentially healing. It’s imaginative. It’s dreamy. It’s elusive. It could be helpful for resolving some of the old hurt. It could open a pathway so that we might learn to calm our worry.
Venus will sextile Jupiter right before the full moon. This is an amorous set up signaling another heaping of hopeful connections and thoughtful threads of support. Mercury will trine Jupiter just after the full moon, which also acts like another cushion of constructive communication and practical advice.
On the same day as the full moon, Uranus stations direct. Having been retrograde since late July, Uranus stationing direct can unleash the need to do things differently. It can rock the cradle that a Cancer full moon is trying to swing soothingly. It can mean that there is a different way to do this holiday, a different way to do family or a different way to look at what you might put on family. It can also help you to take back projections that you might put on friends that appear to fill the gap for family.
Whatever you are working out or working on, know that you are not alone. Most of us think that there is some ideal family to attain. Something we don’t have. Something we want. Something we’ll never get. Maybe some people have it. Maybe you do in certain ways, maybe in many ways. Whatever the configuration you currently have, it has the power to heal your heart’s hurts if you work with it.
What we have can become what we need when we choose it and our own well-being.
Full moon blessings and holiday happiness to you and yours,